How to get your ex boyfriend back was never something I gave much thought to. That is… until a few months ago when my sister’s life was like something out a tacky teen magazine. I suddenly discovered Jess (my sister) thought I was the Ex Boyfriend Guru. There is one… but it sure ain’t me!
Here’s what happened:
My sister and her boyfriend started going together at the beginning of their junior year in college. Every thing seemed to be going very good for them. In Jess’ last year of college, she brought him home for the holidays. He seemed to be a nice guy that loved my sis.
I could tell she was totally in to him.
Who could have predicted then that learning how to get your ex boyfriend back would become a huge part of Jessie’s life?
She told me later she didn’t seem notice (I think she ignored) when Steve (the boyfriend) started to hanging out together with a pal… more and more often. Kind of a boys night out thing.
The problem was it was ‘boys night out’ two or three times a week.
Anyway, it wasn’t until the start of this new phrase that he actually dropped the bombshell. Apparently he dispensed with the ‘we have to talk’ scenario and went straight to: ‘I think we need some space’.
Jess was stunned. Hell… I was stunned. Two months earlier Steve was working hard to charm me and my folks. Now he ‘needed some space.’
Eventually she found out he was dating Jessie’s best… rather, best EX friend. The scumbags that they were, they never had the decency to tell her face-to-face.
I told my buddy, Stuart, who is openly gay, noticed how badly Jess was taking all this. He found a website called Ex Boyfriend Guru and owned by a guy named Matt Huston.
Apparently he’s an expert on how to get your ex boyfriend back.
Anyway, Stu admitted he probably wasn’t the best person to coach Jessie on her problems. But he thought this Matt guy might have some answers for her. I looked it over; I agreed with Stu and then told Jessie about it.
Her biggest problem was getting past the rejection as well as the betrayal by Steve and her best friend. She downloaded the eBook and read it that night.
It turns out that Matt Huston is indeed the Ex Boyfriend Guru.
Matt has identified the ‘buttons’ that every man has. And it’s amazing how easy it is to push these very predictable buttons. Jess discovered how to behave whenever she found herself around Steve and the slut. (BTW: They had several classes together… so being around them was inevitable). All the hussy could do was toss her long hair and shoot him a dirty look when he started flirting with Jess.
Long story short: Matt’s instructions worked. He really did show Jess how to get her ex boyfriend back.
Jess said she realized all of the mistakes she had made previously. Before she had been clingy and needy, giving in to Steve all of the time. In fact, when I saw together at the graduation, it was actually funny…
The shoe was on the other foot. HE was the one following her around like a lost puppy.
Matt teaches that hardest part of a relationship is getting the guy to commit; and I think he’s probably right.
Maybe all Jess really wanted was closure… and never a life-long commitment.
On the other hand, she seems pretty happy with the way things turned out. I guess that part of the magic of making up.